I get looked at funny when I use this word to describe the way I touch things I own or aspire to own.
In example…I tend to fondle my plugs that I own at home. It’s the best way to describe the action. I take the jewelry out of their drawer and look at them closely and rub the surfaces. I place the plug in my palm and close my fingers around it to feel the weight of each one. This is all because I anxiously await the day that I can wear them. All of the plugs I own are in 1”….my goal size that I have just now reached and at some point soon will be able to change out to wear different plugs and eyelets.
Another example…I fondle the clothing at Five and Diamond in San Francisco, especially the SkinGraft work. I closely examine the stitching and construction. I put on certain articles of clothing wishing I could own it so intensely. Or better yet…if I could make something of equal worth to that item. The construction is unique and exquisite. To quote myself “I would gladly be their bitch to learn everything they know.”
So “to fondle”….it can be used in many ways.
Think about the words you use to describe your daily actions. There might be better alternatives.
Commitment in Society: the past, present and future
A discussion with a friend today led to me appearing to be the optimistic, hopeful romantic, that if you were to ask anyone who knows me is not the role I seem to play, and him as the pessimistic cynical type. At the ages of 20 and 21 we have become convinced we are going to be alone. I, the optimistic hopeless romantic, hope to find a life partner and have a family, but my lifestyle is more prone to the results being that of a old shrew with three or more pets to keep me company. And him, the pessimistic cynic, wanting a commitment, but has come to some kind of understanding that he will be alone, or so he thinks. What makes us believe we will be end up alone? One way or another we’re all going to be alone?
There is something going on with this generation…people are becoming more and more selfish. Which may not be the worst thing in the world. We’re breaking away from standards that our predecessors have established for us, but it’s almost as though we’re taking it too far. Fine. Don’t get married because you are supposed to have a family and live in a house with a white picket fence. That’s fine. And there really is no need for a legal agreement that we call marriage to bind us to anyone for monetary reasons or what have you. And there is really no need to reproduce considering the over population this world is attempting to sustain. But at such a young age we should no be feeling the back-lashes of this mentality and the impending loneliness we are to experience. And that’s just it. We’re all so driven to break away from the past that no one can commit. We’re destined for lifetimes of selfish loneliness. Just to prove a point.
There needs to be more progressive lifestyles set. Expansions of what suitable dynamics can be. Not any one lifestyle choice should be the “right” one for couples around the world. And who says there must only be “couples?” How can polygamy be wrong? Monogamous relationships are no more right than those that are open if it works for the individuals involved. *suggested reading: The Ethical Slut* There are what? 7.2 billion people in the world? There really is no right and wrong way to do ANYTHING out there. A certain kind of open-minded mentality needs to be implemented to take the place of this ridiculous rebellion that is leaving the people, such as myself and friends, of this generation feeling as though they are destined to die alone.
And yes, I do realize this was just a ton of rambling. Deal with it…